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Man Gets Sober

Step 4 - Tell people (or not)

Reflect on Your Approach

  • Consider two approaches: immediate disclosure to a wide audience or a more gradual, personal revelation.

  • Recognise the arguments for both, understanding that the decision to quit drinking and-or drugs is personal and significant.

Potential Drawbacks

  • Acknowledge the downside of immediate disclosure, including the pressure and potential judgment if slip-ups occur.

  • Reflect on how you personally handle setbacks and whether this approach aligns with your character.

Learn from Slip-ups

  • If slip-ups occur, view them as temporary setbacks rather than failures.

  • Trust that the guilt from a slip-up can be a powerful motivator to resume your journey promptly.

Personal Reflection

  • Determine the significance of specific dates in your sobriety journey based on your needs and preferences.

  • Be open to various approaches, whether laying all cards on the table from day one or adopting a more gradual disclosure strategy.

Documenting Your Journey

  • If desired, document your journey from day one, providing a personal focus on sobriety and potential support for others.

  • Ensure that the content remains relevant, genuine, and helpful to yourself and your audience.

Personal Choice

  • Understand that the choice of when, how, and with whom to share your sobriety journey is entirely yours.

  • Recognise that there is no one-size-fits-all approach—consider the options, their consequences, and choose what aligns best with your needs and preferences.

Immediate Disclosure

  • Share your decision with family, friends, and even on social media platforms for broad support.

  • Understand that this method can provide encouragement and motivation, especially through the challenges of early sobriety.

Gradual, Personal Disclosure

  • If concerned about failure or identity change, consider a more private approach, gradually sharing with those closest to you.

  • Take the time to be sure of your sobriety before making public declarations.

Choose Your Confidants

  • Begin by confiding in those closest to you, such as your spouse or immediate family, before sharing with a broader audience.

  • Assess the significance of milestones like a year of sobriety before making public announcements

Awareness of the Honeymoon Phase

  • Understand that a honeymoon phase of euphoria accompanies the initial stages of sobriety.

  • Be prepared for the eventual normalisation of the "new you" by embracing the long-term benefits of a sober lifestyle.

Embrace the Norm

  • Be aware that the initial euphoria will wear off, but the newfound stability and normalcy are far superior to the chaos of addiction.

  • Embrace the long-term benefits of a sober lifestyle as the "norm."

Need more support or help? 

Watch the video on making your decision

This decision will be one of, if not the biggest, of your life. You need to make it for yourself, and you need to be 100 percent sure it’s what you want. If not, you will fail.

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